Farrow Journal

Letting Go of the Script

I used to live by invisible scripts.
Not written down, not spoken aloud — but followed, like choreography.

Wake up early. Be productive. Check in. Reply fast. Stay composed. Keep moving.
Smile when it’s expected. Don’t overshare. Don’t under-deliver.

No one gave me these rules. I picked them up like lint — from conversations, media, school, childhood. Somewhere along the way, they started to feel like survival.

But lately I’ve been questioning the value of following a script that no one actually asked me to read from.

Sometimes I wake up late.
Sometimes I take hours to reply.
Sometimes I forget to perform the version of myself that’s easiest to digest.

And the world doesn’t fall apart.

It turns out, control was more of a ritual than a necessity.
A way to feel less uncertain in a life that doesn’t come with guarantees.

These days, I’m trying something different.
I’m letting things be a little messy.
Not because I’ve given up — but because I finally believe I’ll still be okay, even when everything doesn’t go “just right.”

That’s a kind of peace I never knew I needed.

And it feels real.


Written in between moments that didn’t go to plan.